step one to overcoming social anxiety is to realize that most people kind of suck and their opinion of you is literally worthless
This is a joke and all but this is seriously a good idea. It's possible to get yourself in a real depressive funk because all your creative works are big complicated things that you have to work on for a long time and you keep coming up short or failing. That lack of success can really start to burn you out.
But you know what I guarantee you will be able to do? Put together this little Lego plane. Go get a small set for like 25$ and just put it together. You're not trying to make a Big Artistic Statement, you don't have to deal with perfectionism, you don't have to go learn a bunch of new skills and buy a bunch of new tools and supplies, you're just gonna make a little Lego set. You will succeed, I'm sure of it.
Maybe it's just my particular flavor of ADHD/autism, but his has really helped me from time to time. When you're in a rut because you're trying to do great things and failing, maybe try switching to something simple and offline that you can definitely do. Put together a Lego car or plane or train. You'll have fun, I promise.
And then when you get back to work, you can have that little set sitting on your desk, and look up at it every time you take a break. See, you can succeed at things, your brain is just being mean.
advanced tip: while driving, you can use your turn signal to warn other drivers that you intend to turn.
fiona what you did to that snake was fucked up
literally girl wtf
God forbid women do literally anything
This maybe sounds mean, but I think we should be able to send doctors “hey, you were wrong” letters.
I was misdiagnosed with asthma when I was 12 and took asthma meds daily for seven years, and then it turned out I hadn’t had asthma in the first place; I actually have a different breathing problem. I don’t think the doctor who told me I had asthma (my pediatrician, who I was no longer seeing by that point) ever found out she’d been wrong. (This is one of at least four misdiagnoses in my life, from a variety of doctors, that I can think of off the top of my head.) Similarly, my first therapist told me she didn’t think I was autistic because I wasn’t obsessed with trains. I don’t think she ever found out that I am, in fact, autistic, because I wasn’t seeing her by the time I was diagnosed.
I get that it might be demoralizing to have someone contact you specifically to tell you that you messed up, but I think it would be useful for doctors to have data on how often they misdiagnose patients, especially since some doctors tend to think the patient is generally wrong when attempting self-diagnosis. It would be useful for my former therapist to move me from the mental column of “people who erroneously think they’re autistic” to “people whose autism I did not notice when they were right in front of me.” It would be useful for my pediatrician to realize she needed to look more closely and listen to kids when their breathing symptoms weren’t the classic asthma ones.
Doctors can get on their high horse and refuse to believe patients a lot of the time, and the power dynamic makes that dangerous in plenty of situations. I think it would be helpful to have a way to at least alert doctors when we have proof they messed up.
omg so we have 1 seeing dog and 1 blind dog and whenever there's a toy they both want, the seeing dog takes it and just...stands very still. immobile. she KNOWS he will try to wrestle it from her but she has figured out that if she does not squeak it, then he will not find it. leading to this.
"god....grant me the strength to not squeak the squeaky toy"
I like saying "I'll allow it" only in contexts where I have no power or authority
Alpha male podcasts are really silly when you think about it; if you're letting another man tell you how to think and act haven't you already failed step 1 right out of the gate?
Being followed by a car for 2 turns in the city: "I'm about to be murdered. Let me call my mom and write my will because this is it"
Being followed by a car for 6 hours on country highways: "The relationship between Blue Subaru and I is beyond compare. We're family. My road brother."
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